Asleep


I love watching babies sleep. There's something so calm and angel like about them. I could just sit and watch forever. I still love watching my daughter sleep though it has been years since she was a baby. I also find myself staring at the man in my life when I wake up and he's still asleep. The first time we slept next to each other I was compelled to take a picture of him with my phone, I just wanted to capture that moment. To hold on to the perfectness of him asleep, but I didn't.

Being in a room where someone is asleep is not being alone but being left alone. You have company, you have the even sound of breathe, you have the physical presence of someone else. Still you don't have the pressure of needing to interact or give anything of yourself. It's a perfect moment.

I really savored my daughter as a baby, I spent hours just holding her, looking at her, smelling her. I hope that the next time I have a baby I'll have time to enjoy that baby just the same. And to spend hours just watching him or her sleep.

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